Dear ones if your society had an illness that was reducing the masses to dust, the “I’ll be happy when…” conversation would have to be that virus. It’s not that we’re incapable of seeing your struggles or that we’re insensitive to all that the physical life entails, it’s that when you put off your happiness until you satisfy a condition that can only be met at a later date, later never arrives.
There will be times when tragedy has struck and it will be difficult to find moments of joy, however, there are very many moments when things are status quo and still you put off your joy
We don’t expect you to ignore your own struggles, to look the other way at injustice or to try to pretend that you’re happy when your not but we do advise that each one of you seek to find happiness in every moment. Yes, there will be times when tragedy has struck and it will be difficult to find moments of joy, however, there are very many moments when things are status quo and still you put off your joy. Many of you look to others to make you happy. Some of you look to your work to bring you joy and others base your satisfaction on your current social status. Although we understand why this is alluring we must advise that this is akin to driving into a dark tunnel and refusing to turn on your headlights. You may continue to make forward progress but you won’t be able to see where you’re going and it’s highly likely that you’re headed for a crash.
If you haven’t done the work necessary to make the inner landscape a place of welcome, of love and of unending joy, you’ll have stepped into hostile territory and you’ll be looking outward searching for others to rescue you from the desert landscape of unhappiness that represents your inner being
So how do you stop putting your happiness on hold? Don’t you have every right to be dissatisfied if life has failed to bring you everything you desire? Well, let’s look at what it means to live a happy and fulfilled life and then you can make a determination about where your life is in relation to fulfillment. First, happiness can never come from outside stimuli. There is no person, no physical object and no amount of fame that can give you joy. You may have a fleeting sensation of happiness but it will be dependent on the circumstances you’re experiencing and the minute something comes that doesn’t match your ideal vision you’ll be out of luck. Unable to be fed from outside events and people you’ll be required to turn inward. If you haven’t done the work necessary to make the inner landscape a place of welcome, of love and of unending joy, you’ll have stepped into hostile territory and you’ll be looking outward searching for others to rescue you from the desert landscape of unhappiness that represents your inner being.
When you keep looking for other people and other things to rescue you from yourself, you’ve committed to giving your power away
Instead of running frantically from one event, person or solution to the next we want you to put your attention, your focus on coming home. When you keep looking for other people and other things to rescue you from yourself, you’ve committed to giving your power away. Now you’re saying to yourself, “I don’t believe I’m special, worthy or valuable unless so and so or such and such validates me. I can’t find much that’s right about me.” This kind of negative self-talk is doubly destructive. First, you reinforce that you perceive no value in yourself, thereby, rendering yourself powerless. Second, you’ve placed your approval into someone or something else’s hands and it’s only a matter of time before you’re told that which you are is not enough.
If you choose to allow the approval of others to determine if and when you’re allowed to feel fulfilled, then you may wait your entire lifetime
It’s imperative that you stop looking for external validation and start cultivating a rich and rewarding internal landscape. If your happiness, your hopes and dreams and your validation are dependent on an outside source, that external source decides if and when you get to be happy. If you, instead, look to feel good about yourself regardless of what’s happening in your life then you now have the ability to find joy in every moment. Being happy is a choice. If you choose to allow the approval of others to determine if and when you’re allowed to feel fulfilled, then you may wait your entire lifetime. However, if, instead, you make peace with your own darkness and you learn to love and accept all that you are, tragedy may come knocking at your door but it won’t be able to take from you your sense of self. Happiness may flee temporarily when the dark cloud approaches but the one who is secure within themselves will be able to reconnect with joy even in the darkest of times.
Once you’ve attained a state of inner peace, joy will follow and then the storms may come and the rain may fall but that joy which is you will remain and the steadfastness of its presence will be the shining light of love that carries you through the darkness and back out into the light
Happiness can never be bought or given by another it must be cultivated from deep within. When you have taken responsibility for who you are, where you are and what you are you’ll find peace within. Once you’ve attained a state of inner peace, joy will follow and then the storms may come and the rain may fall but that joy which is you will remain and the steadfastness of its presence will be the shining light of love that carries you through the darkness and back out into the light.
Happy is not something you’re striving for, it’s who you are
Love yourself, accept yourself and honor yourself so much that happiness is not a result of what’s happening around you. Happy is a statement of your being. Happy is the essence of who you are. Happy is not something you’re striving for, it’s who you are.
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Dr. Marcia Martin M Ed, Ph D – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual empowerment counselor, metaphysical minister, bestselling author, public speaker, and clairaudient angel communicator specializing in helping people heal their relationship with themselves. By healing the heart of all past pain and trauma you’ll be able to establish and maintain healthy relationships with yourself and all others so you can live a successful life.
Her unique, heart-centered, energetic, healing approach, the Angel Heart Healing Technique, enables you to build the perfect relationship with yourself and helps you answer the questions, “Who am I? Why am I here? and Where am I going?”
Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dreams as you heal your heart and transform your life.
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