The Goodness of Gratitude!

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Dear ones in a world that appears to have become overrun with disasters it’s important to look at what you’ve already accomplished and what you’re in the process of creating. When you engage in the act of giving thanks as opposed to the complaint, that’s it’s not enough, you align yourself with Source and begin bringing more love into the world.

However, before you begin judging the people who say there isn’t enough or start berating yourselves for the times when you, too, fell victim to that thinking stop and realize that you were saying that because you believed it to be true. Next, take a look at the life you’re creating by expressing gratitude for all that you have and all that is yet to be. Being ungrateful or believing there wasn’t enough was the normal or conditioned response to lack and fear. However, being grateful for all that you have has become your new way of thinking and believing and indicates that your belief has changed from fear to love. You now feel safe and loved, cared for and protected because you understand that God is good and you are a part of God. If you’re a part of God and God is good, you are, therefore, good, worthy and deserving. You have stepped out of the,  “Gotta get them before they get me mindset” and into the “Because I am supported, loved and cared for, I am easily able to extend love and caring to others.” You’re now beginning to spend more time feeling good rather than feeling bad so expressing your gratitude for the good in your life is natural.

Now let’s look at what occurs first in the heart and then proceeds to the mind when you allow your focus to be on all that’s right and good with your world instead of what’s dark or dangerous. First, when the heart, which is the largest energetic field in the body, is fed positive energy, it begins to expand outward. However, the negativity, limiting beliefs and past trauma that you’ve been exposed to have not left your energetic field unless you have done something to clear them, so the heart is trying to process both states at the same time. Understand that everything you’ve experienced both good and bad has created an imprint that is continuing to impact you. In order to begin expressing gratitude for all that you have, you must begin actively seeking that which is going well. As you focus on all that is going well you lessen the ability of the negativity to be impactful in your life. The negative will have less of a hold on your life and the positive will be claiming more of a place in your energetic field. As the positive expands, the heart begins to feel more secure, less panicked and more able to look for and find the good. Then you’ll begin filling the energetic field with that good and the heart which dictates to the sub-conscious will begin sending out the message, “We are safe and loved. We are secure. We can relax and it’s safe to trust that our needs will be met.” When you come from the place that everything you require will come at the perfect time, the anxiety that you used to hold about what may be coming next is no longer present and you now have access to the present moment, the now, which is your only point of existence. In the past, when your heart was closed and clouded by all of the negativity that bombarded it, you had no choice but to live with some level of anxiety. The past reminded you of everything that had gone wrong and the future hinted at everything that could go wrong, so your present, which was rarely visited, was seen as a place where you were unsafe and wrong things would certainly happen.

As you consistently replace the what’s wrong with what’s right, what feels good and what you can be grateful for, you open automatically to receive more of God’s guidance. Guidance from Source never ceases. Their unconditional love and support is always available to you but in order to receive and take advantage of this support, you must be in an open and receptive state and the heart must be free of limiting beliefs so there is an open channel through which these blessings may flow. As you concentrate on the good, that which caused hurt and pain in the past begins to have less of a hold and the channel to God widens and deepens allowing you to step more directly into the flow of unconditional love which is continuously outpouring. This flow is where you perceive with the heart that you are indeed safe, that you are indeed loved and that your needs will be met. Here you can relax and allow yourself to be.

As you enter more fully into the being state, as your heart releases the doubts and fears, the mind then becomes increasingly less clouded by thoughts of what you must be protected from. You move from the defensive posture of what’s coming next to hurt me, threaten me or upset me into the how can I be present at the right place and time to take advantage of the good that’s here for me now. At this point, you’ve achieved a state of harmony or grace in which you exist in a state of bliss. The place in which you flow with what is instead of fight against what might be. This is the place where strife ends and existence becomes pure joy. It does not signify the end of your journey nor the end of your challenges. It is simply a state where everything you encounter can be met from a place of peace.

Many of you are now saying, “This is an impossible goal, an unattainable quest and a dream much longed for but never to be achieved.” But we say, learn to develop the habit of gratitude. Each day consciously look for the good in your life and put all of your attention upon that good. Talk about it, think about it, dwell upon it until there is room for nothing else in your energetic field. With your constant and active participation in all that is good, the good will gain a stronghold in your life and that which was painful will begin to slip away. Do not look for instant transformation, instead look for incremental signs of progress. Most of you have been practicing the habit of focusing on what’s wrong for the greater part of your lives. This habit will be deeply ingrained in the psyche and will not yield to sporadic attempts to insert gratitude. You must apply gratitude regularly for an extended period of time until it becomes your new habit, before you will be able to relax and expect this new habit of gratitude to operate unconsciously and with little effort on your part. Therefore, we advise that you invest all of your energy into firmly establishing the habit of looking for and being grateful for the good. Keep actively pursuing this habit until it becomes even more deeply ingrained than the habit of focusing on the negative. It’s only when your attention automatically flows to what’s right instead of what’s wrong that you’ll know that you have successfully implemented a new, more life-affirming habit.

Therefore, dear ones, stay vigilant in your pursuit of goodness. Be on the alert for things for which you can express sincere gratitude and when you find them be enthusiastic in your expression of all that is good, all that is right and all that has brought you joy. Talk about it, think about it, dwell upon it and allow it to completely fill your energetic beingness. Do not be shy in expressing your joy in finding the good, be ecstatic. The more you become involved in the process of gratitude and the search for good, the more easily the good will flow to you and the more deeply you’ll be connected to Source. It is from within this connection that you’ll find your peace and you’ll know that you are safe and loved.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at  http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

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Starting From Scratch

Starting from scratch

Dear ones in the beginning of this journey you call awakening in which you move away from the ego self and into your Divine self, many of you have reported that it feels like your life is falling apart. As though everything you knew to be true about yourself was being stripped away leaving you feeling raw and as though, you had no choice but to start over. That which is familiar seems strange and those whom you called friends are no longer part of your inner circle. In the beginning, while you are divesting yourself of those energies, thoughts and feeling that no longer serve you, you may enter a period of loneliness. A period where what you’ve always known is no longer enough but that which you’re yearning for has not yet arrived or if it’s there in front of you, it doesn’t as yet feel comfortable or familiar. Many of you refer to this period as starting from scratch or starting all over again but we believe you should refer to this period as your true beginning. When you awaken to your divinity there is no greater truth or understanding, nor is there any greater freedom. You will, in essence, be on the road to completion, that place to which each one of you strives to be. The place where you do not just know but you understand God. Every lifetime is designed to bring you closer in understanding to the Creator so that you may gain in your ability to access the wisdom provided and thereby assist in the evolution of your planet and its people.

Now let us look at how to make these new beginnings, these true beginnings less painful. When you are presented with circumstances that have brought you to the place where you are ready to abandon your ego, you may be at a place of intense pain and suffering. This is because the suffering serves as a catalyst from what has always been to what could be. When you have reached the end of your tolerance for suffering, you are more willing to venture into what appears to be the uncharted territory of Divinity. You’re ready to take the chance, do the work and make the commitment because life has become so intolerable. When you arrive at this jumping off point where everything seems to be falling apart and your only choice appears to be starting from scratch, it’s time to rejoice. You are standing on the precipice of the greatest freedom you have ever known. In the past, you perceived that you were free, that you had the ability to make choices but we must share with you that those choices were confined within the limitations of what your mind could conceive or what your limiting beliefs about yourself or your situation would allow. You may have believed you were making your own decisions but your conditioning and past programming were really in charge. This time, when it appears you have to begin anew, is merely an indicator that the bars of your prison are beginning to come down. That which you believed is no longer accepted as truth so you begin the deep period of questioning, of re-evaluating what is true for you and you begin reaching inward to connect with the infinite intelligence of which you are a part.

Let us now look at ways in which you can ease your way into the awakened state. First, when you begin feeling overwhelmed by the pain and suffering of the life you’re living and you sincerely want to find a better way, do not suffer in silence, call out to God. Even though you may not recognize that you’re the cause of your own suffering, this will always be true. God is not doing anything to you but the Creator will do something for you just as soon as you ask. Therefore, we want you to ask God for help knowing that every request, every prayer is heard and answered. None of you have ever been abandoned or forgotten. Each one of you is safe and loved.

Now that you have reached out to God with the expectation that your prayer is being heard and answered, relax and stop fighting. If the walls of your prison want to come tumbling down allow them to do so, you’re in no danger, remember you’re safe and loved, so it’s safe for you to let go of the limiting beliefs you’ve held dear.

Once you give permission for the old to pass away, for the suffering to cease and you’ve enlisted the help of God, do your best not to cling to that which is familiar. If you must, separate your life into two parts. There is the old you, the self that endured suffering and hardship and had coping mechanisms in place, then there is the new self, the awakened self that is ready to cast off worn-out beliefs and see themselves as the powerful creator they truly are. In order to step into your power, you cannot bring the tragedy and suffering persona with you into the awakened life. The two are not compatible and this means that habits, thoughts and sometimes even people should be left on the other side of the dividing line. You will not make progress into a life of flow by trying to serve two masters. The old programming being the stronger of the two programs you have running will pull you back into its grip with a greater hold than before if you try to live your life choosing between the two on a moment to moment basis. We want you to go all in, say goodbye to your old beliefs and your old way of behaving. Yes, you may feel lonely or at least alone in the physical sense but, you will not be alone. You are surrounded by angels and other energetic beings as soon as you ask for assistance. You may have to exercise some patience as your physical reality catches up with your new spiritual perspective but it’s a small price to pay for the freedom you’re receiving.

In addition to being in a state of allowing rather than in a position of force begin to make friends with your thoughts. Remember, every thought is self-generated. They are not something that was conjured up by an angry God to punish you. Once you recognize that the thoughts are yours and yours alone, go deeper, be fearless. Ask yourself, “Why am I thinking this? How does it serve me? What is the story I’m telling myself that allowed these thoughts to populate my mind and lastly, what can I do to reclaim my thoughts and begin re-directing them in a way that will bring me more of what I do want?”

Finally, be brave. It takes courage to embark on the new life you have yearned for, when the old life, even though it’s dysfunctional, is familiar. Do your best to be supportive of all that moves you in the direction you want to go and then reach out for help and support from others who may have been on the path longer than you have. You’re stronger together and the support you provide each other extends far beyond the group and spills out over into your world.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at  http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

Concentrate On Feeling Good!

Concentrate on Feeling good

Dear ones although the instruction is simple, concentrate on feeling good, we cannot stress enough the benefits this simple practice will give you in return. This is why we must again speak to the simplicity of the spiritual. As you know, what you think about becomes your reality but what so many of you fail to perceive is that whether you’re thinking about wanted things or you’re reviewing those thoughts or events that are unwanted, all of those thoughts become factored into your reality. The thoughts of what is unwanted are just as powerful as the thoughts of what is wanted. However, the unwanted thoughts steal your joy and ultimately your well-being so you must be the sentry of your own mind and be the host to only that which you desire to become your physical reality. Long before you see evidence of your thoughts as a physical reality they will be making inroads into your peace and your ability to think clearly or make wise decisions. You must begin to look at negativity as a cancer that is silently growing until it has taken over your entire being and has robbed you of the ability to be the powerful creator for good that you have come here to be. Because you are always powerful, you cannot lose your ability to create but you can voluntarily give up your ability to create good in your own life.

At this point, many of you may begin to disagree stating that we have not walked in your shoes or endured what you have endured but we cannot let you continue with this line of thought.  Although you may have experienced much hardship, you are not exempt from the responsibility for creating that hardship. You had to agree to undergo that experience before you would have been able to experience it. Therefore, let us examine the ways in which you form agreements with wanted and unwanted events so you will be able to make conscious decisions about what you do and do not want in your energetic realm.

First, you form many of these agreements as a child. Every child absorbs the limiting belief systems and thinking that is most prevalent in your family and community. However, before you look about and begin casting blame on family members remember that each one was chosen as part of your journey, they were brought into your awareness because you wanted to learn something from them. Now that you are an adult thinking your own thoughts it’s time for you to review that which you absorbed as a child. If you grew up in a home that focused on scarcity and lack, then examine if that is a belief you want to continue holding on to. How do you feel when you think thoughts such as, “There’s never enough. Someone else will always have more or I must take everything I can get my hands on before someone else gets it.” If these thoughts bring you joy, make you feel relaxed, happy and fulfilled hold them close and repeat them often. You will experience evidence of those thoughts as your physical reality. Conversely, if those thoughts conjure up images of desperation and fear, then take the time to let them go and replace them with thoughts that bring you a sense of satisfaction, of wholeness and that make you feel good.

The second way you acquire beliefs and agree to receive is through a painful or traumatic incident. This is either something unexpected that altered your reality or something repeated over a long period of time such as prolonged abuse. In this case, you have either become used to thinking that your way of existence is normal because it happens continuously over a long period of time or you encounter a traumatic event that alters your reality so completely that this new, post-trauma reality becomes your new normal. Again you must challenge yourself to question why you are allowing this reality to continue. If you are unhappy or uncomfortable with your current circumstances you must first change your thoughts about what is acceptable before you will be able to create an outward change in your reality. Nothing can change in your life until you change the way you are viewing your circumstances and withdraw permission for them to exist in their current state. Unless you stop feeding what you don’t want and put all of your energy into feeding what you do want nothing will change. You do not have to allow events to control you, you can control events but you must be deliberate and consistent with your thoughts. That which you practice, repeat and energize becomes your destination.

The third way you give permission to and claim ownership of unwanted events is to rehearse what’s wrong. By engaging in this negative thinking you are cementing your limiting beliefs and providing yourself no escape route from their prison. By constantly reviewing and anticipating what has gone wrong and what could go wrong, you put yourself on the treadmill of, “I expect to experience more events that will prove to me that things are always going wrong for me.” If things do go right, you will be unable to celebrate that experience and instead, you’ll be waiting for the other shoe to drop, thereby, fulfilling your prophecy that everything always goes wrong for you. The good thing that happened will be an anomaly and you’ll be certain it cannot happen again because, after all, “Things are never working out for me. I must have bad luck.”

Do not allow yourself to be a prisoner of any of these belief systems. Instead, honor yourself by taking the time to examine your thoughts and discover which of the thoughts that you hold dear are causing you to encounter unpleasant circumstances. Recognize your power and use it wisely, do not give the power over your life to someone else by thinking of yourself as small and weak. Remember, you are always powerful, it’s not your power that has diminished when you think negatively, it’s your wisdom. We ask you to reclaim your wisdom by taking a look at everything that occupies your mind. Examine every conversation you have with yourself and be honest. Ask yourself, “If I continue to think these thoughts or hold these beliefs will I create a life that feels good?” If the answer is no, don’t just throw up your hands and feel sorry for yourself, instead, get busy creating new thoughts that are uplifting, that make you feel good and that will lead you in the direction you want to go.

Refuse to allow your life to be run by a third party. If you’re experiencing things you don’t like examine the thoughts your thinking and change them. Let go of the dark, ugly underbelly and hold fast to the beautiful perfection that is really you. Know that you deserve good things. Know that you deserve to feel good and get busy focusing on those thoughts and experiences that will give you more to feel good about. You’re just that powerful.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at  http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

 

How to Forgive the Unforgivable!

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Dear ones, forgiveness, when used properly, can be one of your greatest tools but it is not a catch-all kind of energy that you should use without understanding. Once you understand the power you wield with forgiveness at your disposal you will never again be able to believe yourself to be weak or vulnerable.

Let us begin by looking at what forgiveness is not. Forgiveness does not indicate that the behavior you have forgiven, is now considered acceptable. Harsh words, cruel actions, abuse of any kind is not and never will be acceptable. When you forgive someone you are not saying, “I’ve forgotten all about what happened so you’re free to do it again.” No, forgiveness releases the heavy negativity that binds you to the perpetrator but it does not signify that the behavior was acceptable. The wrong action is still the wrong action. Your forgiveness simply allows you to move ahead instead of being tied to the past where the incident occurred. Let us repeat before we move forward, you can forgive but that does not signify your acceptance of the forgiven action. The action is still forbidden, wrong and hurtful but your forgiveness sets you free from the action and the pain it caused.

Now let us examine why forgiving is so beneficial and why hanging onto anger and resentment is so harmful. First, understand that you are not protected from your own emotions. If you are feeling happy you will automatically strengthen your body and place yourself in a place of high vibrational alignment. If you are unhappy or let’s go deeper: angry, resentful, bitter and vengeful because of something that was done to you, you may believe your negative energy of hatred is only being directed outward toward the person who hurt you, but, because you are the one producing the emotion, it is your body that will be affected by it. In other words, when you’re feeling rage, shame, blame or fear you have a corresponding physical reaction in your body. That negative emotion causes a negative reaction somewhere in your body which puts stress on the body and may cause damage to the body itself. You may have been thinking about the other person when you generated those emotions but since you’re the one feeling them, you will be the one who feels the effects of the emotions you’re generating. Of course, at some point, you may take action against the person who hurt you and then they would feel the pain as well but no matter how much pain you cause another you will not be able to escape the effects of the emotions you generated in your own energetic field and you’ll not be able to escape their negative effects on your physical and emotional bodies. In addition, you will have pulled your spirit down from a place of high vibrational resonance to a place of low vibration.

Keep in mind that the law of attraction mirrors or returns to you that which is a match to your vibrational signature. Therefore, if you are wading through the muck of anger, blame, guilt, fear, shame, resentment etc. you will find yourself experiencing more and more to feel badly about. It cannot be any other way because law of attraction states that you will receive what you put out. This is why forgiveness is one of your most powerful tools. When you forgive, when you say, “What you did was wrong but I release you from this act energetically, I am forgiving your participation.” You are saying, “I no longer want to stay in the low registers of the vibrational scale. I am freeing myself from everything that’s holding me prisoner and I am releasing myself from negative, self-judgment, self-condemnation and blame. I am giving to myself the freedom to move forward without dragging behind me the boulder of shame, resentment or fear.” Once you forgive even the most reprehensible acts you become the victor. You give yourself freedom and an opportunity to begin again without the pain and the weight of this situation that happened yesterday but is robbing you of your joy today. You must let go of the knife that you are plunging into your own chest every time you review and repeat the events that happened to you. Letting go of that pain doesn’t make the action acceptable, it doesn’t mean that you must engage with or socialize in any way with that person who hurt you but it does mean you’ve taken away their power to continue to hurt you. No matter when the hurt occurred, it occurred in the past and your review of that pain, you’re hatred of the guilty party continuously brings that pain forward from the past and right back into your present. If you want to repeatedly injure yourself, think about all the wrongs that have been done to you. We guarantee that their constant review will reward you with buyer’s remorse. Their constant review will keep your body in a constant state of tension that will place great stress upon your body, this stress will result in a physical breakdown and now you’ll have both your anger to deal with as well as your sadness about your physical illness.

This steady decline in every area of your life could have been avoided by changing your attitude about everything you’re feeling badly about. When you forgive any action you immediately cut ties with the negative emotions that will be generated by holding onto unforgiveness. Once those negative emotions are no longer being fed, they can no longer be sustained. There is no fuel to add to their fire so they subside into nothingness and you now have free space in which to invite in emotions and energy that support and uplift you. While you are feeling negative emotions there will be no room for love, joy and peace and no way for you to move up the vibrational ladder. You must make a conscious decision to feed one emotion or the other because they cannot both be sustained. If you try to hold onto both of them you will at best go nowhere but at worst you will drag yourself further from your dreams. The action, the crime against you may have been horrible, but you will only add insult to injury if you insist on reviewing and replaying what happened while generating anger and resentment. Remember that you receive what you put out. You must make a conscious decision about what you want to receive. The other person may receive your vitriol while they are in your presence but you, as the creator, will receive the end product of your unforgiveness the entire time you are generating that emotion.

It’s not what you are doing to them, it’s what you’re doing to yourself. You’re not paying them back, you’re placing yourself in a prison of you’re own making by holding on to events of the past you believe are unforgivable. Choose to forgive and set yourself free so you may enjoy the sweet reward of love, joy and peace. You’re worth the effort and you deserve to be free.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at  http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

 

What To Do If You’re Blue!

What to do if your blue

Dear ones contrary to the advice that you are always told, the first thing we want you to do when you’re feeling out of sorts and dealing with a period of depression or melancholy is not to try to just forget about it and engage yourself in the business of distraction. There will be a time when the energy of distraction will be a useful tool but it’s not your first line of defense. When you engage in distracting behavior and never trace the behavior to its root you become vulnerable. This vulnerability may lead to self-destructive behavior that carries its own punishment and set of problems for you to deal with. For instance, people who are feeling badly about something are often seen drowning their sorrows, taking the edge off or using a substance of some kind that will take them away for a period of time so they won’t have to think about what’s bothering them. What all of these behaviors have in common is the inability to solve the problem or the reason for the sense of dissatisfaction with one’s life. Once the escape behavior is concluded the person wakes to find they now have at least two problems to contend with and no solution in sight for either one of them. Therefore, the escape behavior may begin again until it becomes a habit and then the habit becomes the go-to operating program. When this occurs you are no longer in charge of your life. You’ve given your power, your control, over to the escape mechanism and the problem along with your depression continues to escalate.

But so far we have only told you why not to practice escapism as a way to deal with a period of depression but we want to enlighten you as to what you should do. Keep in mind that escape is not limited to mind-altering substances you can escape with any form of mind-numbing behavior that deadens your thought process. TV, computer games and other forms of entertainment, if used to excess, can be ways to avoid facing an unpleasant reality so you must monitor your own behavior for signs that you are avoiding rather than solving a problem. When you find yourself in avoidance mode, its time to take action that will move you toward a desired end for the longer you put off doing anything of benefit for yourself, the more difficult it will be to find the motivation to take beneficial action.

To give you an action plan, let’s say you’ve entered into a state of depression because you’ve recently lost your job and you no longer have an income. On the surface, it appears that your problem would be solved by finding the motivation to get another job but as the days go by desperation is nipping at your heels and a new job seems further and further away. How can you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get your mind in sync with that new job you need so very badly? The answer is simple…you can’t. You will be unable to move from the depression and desperation of no job to the freedom and excitement of new job as long as you believe that the cause of your depression is from the events surrounding you instead of the state of your mind and the heart agreements you’ve made with yourself. Nothing happens by chance, you did not lose your job because you were feeling great about your life and you were living in the highest vibrations of love, joy and peace. If you were in those high vibrations you would have either retained your job or you would have been offered a new one with a better salary as soon as your former employment ceased. If you were stepping into a major growth period and loss of employment was necessary you would have given permission for this to occur with some aspect of your energetic field. You may not be aware consciously but nothing can happen to you without your agreement or without a program operating in your sub-conscious that resonates with the event before it can occur. Nothing can be done to you without your permission. This is why we want you to be aware of your being on all levels. If you are feeling badly about some aspect of yourself you will attract events that reflect how you’re feeling about yourself. When you’re unaware of your power, it can cause you to feel as though things are always happening to you, that you have no control, no choice and that you are a victim. This is a position of powerlessness that will definitely lead to depression.

We want you to be the victor and not the victim. Begin by recognizing that nothing happens by chance. You must be in alignment with the energy of the event in order for that energy to reach you. Good or bad you must resonate with the energy before it can come into your physical space. Therefore, the first thing we want you to do when you’re feeling out of sorts is to begin spending time examining how you’re thinking, talking and feeling about yourself. Is your self-talk negative, highly critical or focused on how unfairly you’re always being treated? If so follow the thread of that story to the incident or conditioning that allowed these statements to be true for you. Challenge their truth. Ask yourself, “Why do I believe this and what can I do so I believe better things about myself?” Understand that you must change the way you are interacting with yourself before you will be able to attract better interaction from others. It’s always about you, you’re the primary player, everyone else is supporting cast so get your relationship with you back on track by showering yourself with unconditional love and forgiving yourself for perpetrating this crime against yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, instead, offer yourself kindness and compassion and promise to treat yourself with love and appreciation.

Don’t look outside yourself to solve life’s problems, instead go within and release the stored energy of shame and blame that are holding you prisoner to your current life program. You came here to thrive not merely survive so take the first step and forgive yourself, now take the next step and love yourself and keep the momentum going by cultivating the habit of positive, powerful thinking.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at  http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

The Solution Won’t Be Revealed by Complaining!

Solution revealed

Dear ones by stating the obvious, that the habit of complaining will not bring you to a place of peace or to a solution, we hope not to enrage you but to stimulate your thought processes because there is a proper use for everything. Yes, everything can be made beneficial if used appropriately, therefore, we want you to have access to every tool and to make the best use of all that is available. When you allow any belief or practice to become taboo you automatically make it seem to have more power or control over your life, as you perceive that you, personally, have less control This is because you have lost the power which you assigned to the practice of complaining, which is now off limits. In essence, you’ve completed a transfer of power away from you and onto this thing that you are now calling forbidden. Not only are you creating a secret lure by saying to yourself, “You can’t have this,” but you are also giving away your power to this thing you can no longer have. Therefore, you can complain, you can gripe about what you don’t have, you can express your frustration and self-pity but what you cannot do is change the law. Yes, you can complain about what you don’t have or if you’re physically unwell, what you do have, but as you are doing this complaining you must understand that the law is not off duty. This means that when you complain about a situation, you’re giving it your time and attention. Since whatever you focus upon is energized, you will in due time and with your continued focus receive more to be unhappy about. You will receive everything you were complaining about and even more to feel badly and complain about. It cannot be any other way. If you energize and re-energize the energy of what you do not want by talking, complaining and feeling sorry for yourself because you’re experiencing this thing, then you’re making yourself into a magnet of attraction. However, the only thing you are set to attract is more of the negative that you’re already complaining about.

Yes, you can complain. Sometimes it’s extremely beneficial to vent, to let the steam escape, so you can focus on what you do want to attract. However, you will be best served by cultivating a habit that says what you do desire and then sets about acting as if this desire has already come to be. Complaining about unwanted events is dragging yourself into the energy of desperation. You are desperate to rid yourself of this thing that is unwanted but when you focus on the unwanted you are asking that the energy cling to you as you attract even more to be desperate, resentful, jealous or ashamed of. We want to remind you that you receive what you put forth into the universe.  State your desires in the affirmative once and then go about speaking of those desires as though they have already arrived. You cannot assign them to tomorrow because whenever you talk or think about tomorrow it must be in the future and not the present. You exist from one present moment to the next, from one now to the next, so you will never be able to receive anything that is scheduled to arrive at a future time and place. Instead, make sure that all you desire will arrive in the now, get excited about how it feels to have this desire in your here and now and get busy being grateful that you have learned to attract what you do want instead of an endless supply of disappointments that leave you feeling downtrodden and uninspired. We recommend that you do not allow complaining to enter the land of the taboo where you may feel tempted to pick it up again simply because it’s now off limits. However, do give yourself the opportunity to liberate yourself from the habit of complaining. Like any habit, it’s going to take some time to be free of this false friend so you must be patient and understanding with yourself.  Whenever you catch yourself complaining about a situation instead of searching for a solution, stop and congratulate yourself for catching yourself in the act. Offer no self-criticism or blame, simply express pride that you’ve caught yourself engaging in this detrimental behavior because awareness is the first step to creating lasting change. Once you recognize what it is that’s moving you in the wrong direction, you’ll be able to begin moving toward the solution by reinforcing the positive behavior every time you choose to make that better choice. Every time you chose to look at what’s going right and you put the effort into focusing on what you do want instead of being lulled into your habit of complaining, you’ve won. If you catch and correct yourself the majority of the time you will easily begin cultivating a new habit. The habit of attracting all that you do want.

Yet, even though we do not want you to put your time and attention on what’s going wrong, we do want you to be aware of it. When something feels off in your body, your work, your living space, your family or any of your relationships and you feel the urge to complain about it, we want you to explore it instead. What feels wrong? Why does it feel wrong? Is this feeling to be trusted or am I making things up? If it feels wrong, then that feeling is probably coming from somewhere or something and you would do well to investigate its roots. Find out what’s beneath the sensation of unease you’re experiencing. We ask that you not dismiss everything out of hand. A symptom should be followed to its source for a life that is free of unwanted stress, disease and anxiety. Remember, the circumstance or symptom has shown up for a reason. It wants to get your attention and encourage you to change your focus and thereby your point of attraction. If something feels wrong, investigate, get to the source and once you have identified the problem, begin actively searching for a solution.

Do not begin engaging in ceaseless complaining and expect that you’ll find an optimal solution by offering endless renditions of the problem. Identify, the problem, trace it to its source and then get busy changing your focus, your point of attraction from what you don’t want to what you do want. Now you’ll be in line to receive more of what you do want instead of that never-ending chain of unwanted events that you’ve been attracting and complaining about forever.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!

Message her for a complimentary, thirty-minute consultation at http://www.marciamartinthehearthealer.com/contact.html.

 

Gratitude Done Right!

Gratitude done right

Dear ones we applaud your efforts to be grateful for everything but today we want to give you the tools that will make your habit of gratitude more effective. Understand that being grateful for everything is the absolute surest way to move yourselves forward, and to maintain positive motion but when you simply say the words, “I am grateful,” expecting them to be the magic formula for whatever may need fixing in your life you are merely repeating empty words. Words alone have no power. They gain power when they are either expressed with deep feeling or they are repeated endlessly by many who have attached meaning to them. When many repeat a chant and express the words with reverence over a long period of time the words begin to acquire the vibrational resonance of the utterers. In other words, that which is repeated comes to represent energetically what is being felt by the many who are saying the words. In this way, prayers and chants that are spoken with reverence begin to take on the reverence with which they are spoken and these prayers then gain the power of the vibrational energy of the petitioners. Therefore, oft-repeated sacred texts are seen to have miraculous properties. The miracle is not in the words, the miracle is the feeling and the attachment that was placed upon those words as they were being spoken through the centuries.

It is the same way with gratitude. You may say the words, “I am grateful,” and feel nothing. In this case, your words will mean nothing and do nothing. They will be unable to move the vibrational needle away from where you are and onto where you want to go. In this case, you are misusing gratitude for you feel safe that if you just repeat the words, “I am grateful,” often enough then you will receive the miracle you are hoping for. Yet, while you repeat that phrase many of you are feeling anything but grateful. Perhaps you have been told that holding onto negativity such as resentment, guilt and fear is the surest way for you to experience more of the very thing you are trying to avoid. Therefore, you desperately and not gratefully begin expressing gratitude in a vain attempt to ward off the negative you are in the process of attracting. You must understand that you cannot fool the law of attraction with words. You cannot bribe your way into a better tomorrow, you must believe your way into a brighter tomorrow by making peace with where you are now and by expressing sincere gratitude for all that you have. Remember that the energetic realm does not communicate via language, it operates solely in the vibrational field and if you are to have success in using the energetic field in your life you must consistently offer a vibrational resonance that is compatible with what you do want. You cannot use pretty words or popular sayings to communicate with the energetic realm, you must use feelings. The energy of how you are feeling when you are expressing yourself is what is communicated to the universe. The words you speak may communicate what you mean to those around you but the universe is cued by what you are feeling as you say the words. Therefore, if you want to move yourself into a place where you attract more of what you do want, you must spend time examining not just what you’re saying about what you want, but what you’re feeling about what you’re saying. When you say, “I am grateful,” and you feel scared, disappointed or discouraged the element of gratitude will not reach the universe but your disappointment will. Instead of just saying words, of talking without thinking or repeating mindless incantations that may have meaning to someone else, take the time to examine what is true for you. When you are feeling sincere gratitude, when you are really grateful for what you have, express it, and express it often. You will lift yourself into a high vibrational resonance that will indeed bring you more to be grateful for.

However, when you are in the midst of exactly what you don’t want you will be unable to express sincere gratitude for that situation and if you were to try and trick the law of attraction by claiming gratitude for this unwanted thing, your dissatisfaction is all that would be telegraphed to the universe. Instead of trying to put a band-aid on an open wound we ask that you react instead with honesty. Take stock of the situation and examine the parts that you absolutely dislike. Once you have identified them, put those elements away. Take your attention off of all that is wrong and get busy looking for anything that is going right, anything that feels good. Anything for which you can say and mean that you are truly grateful for this thing being in your life. When you truly feel grateful that you have something or someone in your life you will put out a vibrational resonance that is of a high energetic frequency. Conversely, when you try to pretend you are grateful so you can say the words, but feel anything but grateful, you will be putting a low vibrational signal out into the universe and you will attract back to yourself more that is if a low vibration. Things of a low vibration feel heavy, dark and unwieldy. They are the thing you can’t wait to get rid of but they will cling to you as long as you put false gratitude into the universe. Low vibrational energy resides in anger, grief, frustration, resentment, jealousy, guilt, fear, shame, blame, etc. You may believe you are hiding your true feelings behind honeyed words but remember the universe does not speak your language, it reads your feelings and mirrors them exactly. Therefore, find reasons to be truly joyful, loving, kind, compassionate, excited, serene and peaceful. You don’t have to be manic in your enthusiasm, none of you can be up all of the time, but you can cultivate a core of goodness. You can be sincerely happy when you see another succeed, instead of angry and resentful. Begin saying, “I am happy you’re a success. If you can do it, I can too.” then get busy making it happen for yourself by finding reasons to be grateful for and happy about where you are. No matter where you may find yourself, you can find something within where you are that feels good. Get used to acknowledging and putting all of your attention on what’s feeling good and then express heartfelt gratitude for that good.

Don’t say the words, “I am grateful,” and expect miracles. Mean them, feel them and be delighted that you have something to be grateful for, then, Expect A Miracle.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, your relationship expert, guides you in improving all of your relationships, beginning with the most important one, yourself. Using her extensive education as well as her intuitive gifts she will bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Spiritual Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that is running in the background and sabotaging your life, you experience true freedom.

Her program targets the energetic heart center where every emotional memory and its triggers are stored. Once these memories are cleared and healed you are able to live life on your terms, as your authentic self, empowered to live your life on purpose as the person you came here to be. Heal your heart and transform your life!