How To Stop Negative Mind Chatter

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Dearest ones, contrary to your popular belief, the mind does not control you. The mind does not dictate thoughts or actions to you, nor are you incapable of ordering your mind and your thoughts. Your mind is not in control of your life but your thoughts do determine what you experience.

When you give time and attention to a particular thought it becomes important and becomes a point of fixation

Let’s look more deeply at this statement so you may have total clarity. First, thoughts are not received by the mind from an outside source over which you have no control. Nor, is your life a series of random events that you must deal with to the best of your ability. You are not tossed around by the winds of chance and you are not helpless to deal with the vagaries of fate. Thoughts, which occupy the space of the mind are generated by you. They’re determined by your focus or your point of attention. When you give time and attention to a particular thought it becomes important and becomes a point of fixation. This fixation generates additional thoughts that are similar in nature and so on until your attention wanders and the thought sequence no longer has perceived value. Therefore, you are the determining factor throughout the thought process. If you want to increase a thought’s value, give it more attention. If you want to make it less significant, ignore it just like you do any of the other billions of thoughts that are processed by the brain each day.

When you spend all of your time focused on what you want to avoid your trying to move forward by going backward

So, if you determine your thoughts, why do so many of you choose to focus on everything that’s going wrong, that may go wrong or that has gone wrong? To answer that question you must be aware of the social structure of your civilization and then make a conscious effort to choose appropriately. A popular belief held by your society is that mistakes must be reviewed and contemplated so they can be corrected. There is a great fear of making the same mistake twice. To correct said mistakes, much attention must be given to the process of what’s wrong and very little time and energy are put on what’s right. When you spend all of your time focused on what you want to avoid your trying to move forward by going backward. You cannot attract what is wanted by looking at what isn’t Nor can you be in alignment with what’s right when all of you’re attention is on what’s wrong. We want you to change the order of things. Instead of looking at what went wrong, spend all of your time looking at everything that went right.

From the place of what’s right, you’re able to feel good about yourself

Changing the order of your thoughts will help you accomplish several vital things at once. First, it will cause you to be present. You cannot be thinking about yesterday or tomorrow and be focused on what you’re doing right at this moment. Second, by focusing on what’s right you’re changing your energetic attraction point. From the place of what’s right, you’re able to feel good about yourself. Feeling good means you’ll be more prone to thinking positive or what’s right thoughts. Positive thoughts reinforce the feelings of well-being and keep you in a high vibrational space. Your high vibration attracts to you other thoughts and experiences that reflect a sense of joy and well-being. Now instead of a negative thought loop that makes you feel overwhelmed and incapable, you’ve created a positive thought loop that brings you joy and helps you feel empowered. 

Instead of giving your time and attention to the practice of getting away from it all, get into the habit of appreciating each moment

In other words, you don’t have to stop doing anything to move your mind from a place of negative, self-critical chatter to a place of positive self-affirming supportive self-talk. You just have to start becoming mindful of your life. What are you thinking and assigning importance to? Who are you spending time with and what activities and conversations are you engaging in? If you’re around people who look at what’s wrong and actively seek to numb themselves from their current reality you’re supporting a negative mind chatter habit. Instead of giving your time and attention to the practice of getting away from it all, get into the habit of appreciating each moment. Look for the value you’re experiencing in the present by asking yourself, “What am I learning from this situation? What do I have to be grateful for? Which of my thoughts are bringing me joy?” Then from the place of intelligent observer, go about creating the life you desire to experience.

Carefully cultivate those feel-good thoughts by staying present and paying attention to them

You create your life, life does not come at you with a secret agenda that you must decipher. However, in order to live your life successfully, you must commit to being at home to the present and aware of what you’re thinking. Your mind is yours to command so it’s important that you respect the power under your control and use it wisely. Search for those thoughts that support your highest good. They will feel joyful and uplifting. Carefully cultivate those feel-good thoughts by staying present and paying attention to them. Your focus will cause positive aspects of every situation to magnify and from that point of expansion, you’ll attract other thoughts that will support, uplift and honor your highest good.

We advise that you refocus from what’s wrong onto what’s right

We want you to know of the power you command, therefore, we don’t ask that you try to stop your negative thoughts. Instead, we advise that you refocus from what’s wrong onto what’s right. Therefore, instead of trying to go from negative to positive you’ll simply be directing your attention away from what hurts and onto everything that feels good.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

 

How To Find Your Soulmate

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Dearest hearts before you can begin the journey to find your soulmate, you must first complete the journey inward. There is no magic formula necessary to attract a soulmate, find true love or live happily ever after but there is a condition. Before you will be able to find the partner of your dreams you must first learn to love yourself. Now for those of you who claim this is an easy task which can be done overnight, we want to share with you a truth. A truly self-loving being does not accept one aspect of themselves and discard, condemn or overlook the rest. A truly self-loving person is not blind to their flaws or of the belief that they are without need of growth and expansion. No, the truly self-loving individual, sees themselves as they are and has chosen to love all of themselves while also acknowledging that certain areas can be improved.

By agreeing to go within their own hearts and by addressing their own successes and failures they have succeeded in moving themselves from the place of external well-being in which the outward trappings: social status, financial stability and workplace standing determine happiness and stature to the quiet, inner landscape of the heart that cannot be seen by others but can be felt by all

The deeply self-loving person has stopped seeking outside approval. Although external validation is always welcome and feels good it’s not necessary to the evolving, self-loving individual. By agreeing to go within their own hearts and by addressing their own successes and failures they have succeeded in moving themselves from the place of external well-being in which the outward trappings: social status, financial stability and workplace standing determine happiness and stature to the quiet, inner landscape of the heart that cannot be seen by others but can be felt by all. They have learned to determine their well-being by the peace of their heart-center. When they are in love with and at peace with all that they are, they know a kind of supreme satisfaction and contentment that draws others to them like moths to a flame. Those who have learned to love all that they are, are not out seeking, chasing or pursuing others. They’re content in their beingness and they trust that they will always be at the right place at the right time.

Making such a bold proclamation to yourself, about yourself sets off an energetic resonance within the auric field that continues to reflect and magnify this state of well-being and appreciation

Therefore, if you want to find your soulmate you must go within and begin the work of falling in love with all that you are. To be successful in this quest of self-love you must first adopt an honest attitude. Begin by taking an assessment, “What qualities that I possess do I love about myself?” Make a handwritten list of all of your most admirable qualities. Review this list often. You may even go so far as to carry this list around with you so you’re able to read it throughout the day. You may copy the list onto any medium for portability and convenience but the original list must be handwritten. Making a handwritten list of all the ways in which you excel is the first step you’ll make in loving all of yourself. Taking the time to hand write a list of attributes clearly states, ” I love you, you are worthy, I value you and find you deserving.” Making such a bold proclamation to yourself, about yourself sets off an energetic resonance within the auric field that continues to reflect and magnify this state of well-being and appreciation. By spending continued time on all you love about yourself, you’re reinforcing the idea that you’re lovable and acceptable as you are.

Allowing yourself to be loved and accepted as you are enables you to feel safe and it’s when you feel safe that you’re able to make life-affirming choices instead of thinking thoughts or participating in actions that would bring hurt or harm

Love and acceptance are then responsible for opening the door to the next step in the process because loving and accepting yourself as you are in this moment enables you to flow seamlessly into loving transformation. When you feel accepted, worthy of being loved and loved it’s easy to let go of the self-sabotaging behaviors that you’ve been indulging in. It becomes easy to make self-loving choices and to choose those thoughts and beliefs that support your highest good. Allowing yourself to be loved and accepted as you are enables you to feel safe and it’s when you feel safe that you’re able to make life-affirming choices instead of thinking thoughts or participating in actions that would bring hurt or harm. The self-loving person has given themselves permission to grow. They understand some of that growth may be painful and frustrating. They’re aware that sometimes they may appear to fail but the love they hold for themselves allows them to explore, to learn and to become more without ever having to feel shameful or foolish for being willing to try.

Once you have stopped resisting the good that you are. Once you’ve made peace with your own greatness and once you understand that you as you are and others, as they are, are perfect for the life journey they have chosen, then you’ll be able to step out from under the censure of self-criticism

The journey to self-actualization is a journey of love. It is the highest calling of any individual and will require your complete surrender, yet, this surrender will not be to another human being. Nor will it be to subjugation or abuse. No, it will be to the wisdom of the unconditionally loving energy of the Creator. Once you have stopped resisting the good that you are. Once you’ve made peace with your own greatness and once you understand that you as you are and others, as they are, are perfect for the life journey they have chosen, then you’ll be able to step out from under the censure of self-criticism. You’ll stop looking for what’s wrong and realize that nothing is wrong. Everything is perfect for where it is and what it is undertaking. Then from this place of unconditional acceptance, you’ll be able to move in the direction of your greatest good. It’s from this place, this place of rightness, where life will become magical.

Instead of trying, putting forth effort or working to attract someone, the love you allow to flow to you and through you is now attracting into your life everything you could ever desire

Instead of running after anyone or anything. Instead of begging and pleading with Source to bring you the desires of your heart, your perfect partner and a life that feels wonderful, you’ll discover that the love you’re holding for yourself has spread from you to others and into everything you touch. Instead of trying, putting forth effort or working to attract someone, the love you allow to flow to you and through you is now attracting into your life everything you could ever desire. 

A journey into the heart where you discover that the one you must fall in love with first is yourself and from that place of love and acceptance all good things are added unto you

Finding your soulmate is not an exercise in looking around the world for what you desire; it’s a journey into the heart where you discover that the one you must fall in love with first is yourself and from that place of love and acceptance all good things will be added unto you.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

 

Why Do Empaths Attract Narcissists?

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Dearest hearts you may believe that these two groups of people, the empath and the narcissist, are polar opposites and wildly dissimilar therefore they should have no attraction for each other and no common ground. The empath is generally seen as the all-feeling one who becomes the victim while the narcissist is seen as the self-consumed one who’s seen as the predator. Herein lies the problem, no one is ever comprised of one strain of thinking or behavior. There’s good and bad in every being and it’s up to each individual to decide whether to allow their mature, loving side to dominate or their childish immature side to present itself.

The two groups share a common bond of feeling misunderstood and of having low self-esteem

It does not follow that the empath is mature and enlightened or more advanced nor does it follow that the narcissist is underdeveloped with none of these qualities. What is true for both ends of this social spectrum is the need to feel loved and appreciated. The two groups share a common bond of feeling misunderstood and of having low self-esteem. They both look outside themselves for validation because they don’t see themselves as worthy. Both of these groups have developed personality traits to deal with their supposed shortcomings. The empath gains attention, respect and pseudo-love by helping others. They are the, “let me do if for you” group that often feels overwhelmed, over-obligated and taken advantage of. They self-destruct by agreeing to help everyone, by trying to make everyone around them feel better and by taking the burden away from others and placing it on their own shoulders. They often judge their success or happiness by whether or not they’ve succeeded in making another person happy. Since no one can be responsible for another’s happiness, especially not when it comes at the expense of their own wellbeing, the empath will never receive the acknowledgment or praise they desire. They’ll assume it’s because they haven’t tried hard enough, been accommodating enough or done enough for the other person and so they’ll fail but they’ll immediately begin again. This time they’ll commit even more time and resources into the other person’s welfare and when this cycle also fails the pleasing behavior will begin again after a brief rest period. Often the renewed behavior will be laced with a frantic and desperate willingness to please but the end product will always be failure. The empath has been trying to do the impossible and has assigned their value as a person to the successful outcome of their campaign. At some point, the empath will abandon their attempt to please the narcissist and will begin seeing themselves as a failure and permanently damaged goods.

When the narcissist says, “Look how great I am,” they’re really saying, “Please help me to see myself as great. When I look at myself, I see only false bravado and a whole lot of nothingness so what I really need is for you to convince me of my greatness.”

The narcissist who has been the recipient of this frantic attempt to please may at first appear to be genuinely delighted by the attention and slavish devotion of the empath. It’s during this phase of the relationship that the narcissist will encourage the devotion and attention of the empath by offering praise and acknowledgment. However, the instability of the narcissistic personality demands that relationships cannot be sustained even when they are benefiting the narcissist. The narcissist desires attention and wants everyone to be proud of who and what they are. They desire to be seen as heroes, larger than life and just a little bit better than the average person. Unfortunately, they don’t have the self-esteem or the foundation to support these claims so they constantly need to be propped up by others. When the narcissist says, “Look how great I am,” they’re really saying, “Please help me to see myself as great. When I look at myself, I see only false bravado and a whole lot of nothingness so what I really need is for you to convince me of my greatness.” The narcissist has no foundation for their claims of superiority and because of that, they develop a sense of unworthiness and self-loathing. They cannot be what they desire to be and therefore they detest what they are.

What differs is that the empath gains worth by being helpful while the narcissist gains value by being perceived as someone important

The empath also has no love for self. They see themselves as useless in and of themselves and useful only if they can be seen as valuable by someone else. Both of these personalities are extremely vulnerable, both are debilitating and both are unable to see themselves as they really are. In the case of the empath, their worth is tied to other’s opinions of them and in the case of the narcissist, their worth is directly related to other’s opinions of them. What differs is that the empath gains worth by being helpful while the narcissist gains value by being perceived as someone important. Therefore, the empath may seek to hide in the shadow of the narcissist so they can feel worthy without feeling vulnerable. Neither of these personalities is conducting their lives from a place of balance. Both are seeking to receive from outside themselves that which can only come from within and neither of these two groups is living from the place of their highest good; yet rather than separate them into victim and predator, it’s best to see them both as underdeveloped with regard to themselves.

Rather than seeing themselves as worthless until validation they must learn to see themselves as worthy just as they are

Instead of looking outward to find validation from the world, it’s necessary for both groups to dive inward. Into the heart center where their connection to the Divine is anchored. Once in the heart, they must strive to let go of all of the illusions the ego has created for the purpose of growth. This means they must examine and stabilize their self-esteem. Rather than seeing themselves as worthless until validation they must learn to see themselves as worthy just as they are. The fear that they will never be loved or accepted must be seen for what it is and released so they are then able to look at themselves realistically and love themselves where they are as they are.

If you over give trying to prove you have value or you overpromise trying to prove your worth, you’re not being honest with who you are

The path from dysfunction to health doesn’t have to be burdensome or painful but it does require honesty and commitment. If you over give trying to prove you have value or you over-promise trying to prove your worth, you’re not being honest with who you are. Both of these states stem from a poor self-concept that will never be corrected by looking at others for validation. The only way to heal a self that has become distorted by the ego is to go within to the quiet place of the heart. It’s from this place of peace that you will see your own magnificence and be able to love yourself as you are.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

How to Stop Being Afraid of Disappointing Others

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Dearest hearts those of you who are empathic, who feel the heartache, disappointment and fears of another as if they were your own, have adopted a coping mechanism, living in fear of disappointing others or living for the approval of others, that is stifling your growth as an individual. Although, feeling the pain of another is an advanced ability, the coping mechanism of living for the approval of others, causes you to regress. Instead of following the guidance of your heart and becoming the empowered being for good that you desire to be, you’ve followed the delusion of the mind and allowed yourselves to be terrorized by the idea of not being good enough.

No, that which is causing you harm is your attitude about who you are and what you have to offer

We understand that failure is an unpleasant consequence that may be encountered on the life journey. Yet, failure, like all things, provides a unique learning opportunity so failure is not the problem. Even if you failed, again and again, it would not pose a problem. No, that which is causing you harm is your attitude about who you are and what you have to offer. As a sensitive soul, you have a second sense about others. You can pick up on their energetic output so you know what the other person may be feeling. Their discouragement becomes yours, their disappointment is felt within your being and their frustration with their life situation may suddenly seem as though it must be your responsibility. When you falsely assume that you can be responsible for another person’s life choices you’ve moved out of the empathic state of being into the “I have to assume responsibility for others” state and this is a danger zone.

Your gift of empathy makes you aware of what others may be feeling but it was never meant nor does it require you to fix another person’s situation

Your gift of empathy makes you aware of what others may be feeling but it was never meant nor does it require you to fix another person’s situation. Instead of seeing yourself as fixing their situation or helping, you must see it for what it is. Interfering or hindering another person’s ability to grow. So why then do empaths fear they will disappoint others and/or hold themselves back so that others can shine? Because instead of living the life journey they assigned themselves, they’re trying to live someone else’s. Instead of focusing on what they need to do to progress, they’ve gotten caught up in the trials and tribulations of another and they’re now living to please someone else instead of living to enhance their own life journey through exploration and advancement.

The empath in you lives in fear of being perceived as selfish, but it’s time for you to learn how to ask for direction from the Divine rather than trying to keep the peace by doing what others want you to do

If you’ve found yourself holding back or taking a path that feels good to someone else but not to you, it’s time for you to get out of your own way. Instead of determining your path by reading and absorbing the energy in the room, you must make your own way. The empath in you lives in fear of being perceived as selfish, but it’s time for you to learn how to ask for direction from the Divine rather than trying to keep the peace by doing what others want you to do. The fear that keeps you up at night is that you’ll somehow disappoint those whom you feel beholden to and that disappointment will then become your own no matter how hard you may have tried to please. Empaths, please understand this truth. Nothing you do will ever be good enough unless you’re working to satisfy a personal goal. If you continue to live your life chasing the dreams of another, you will never feel fulfilled. You will always feel like a failure and you will never succeed in pleasing those whom you are working so hard to satisfy. You cannot do the work for another person, you can only do it for you.

You cannot bring someone else to a better place successfully, they must do it themselves

When you feel overwhelmed and as if you are always disappointing others it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? What do I hope to gain? And what level of satisfaction am I hoping to receive?” If you have no personal goal attached to your mission, if your goal is to make so and so happy, then you’re transferring their goals into your life in an attempt to make them feel better about themselves and their life. However, you are not them. You cannot bring someone else to a better place successfully, they must do it themselves. They cannot do it for you and you cannot do it for them. Each one must do it for themselves. Take your attention off of what someone else wants, stop trying to get it for them, you’ll absolutely fail. Instead, place your attention on what you want and do all you know how to make your life better and to bring yourself joy. From your increased state of joy, you become a more powerful energetic being. Your light shines brighter and you’ll be able to help others find their own joy.

It is only when you begin using your sensitivity to find that which feels good to you that you’ll find your way forward into the success you’ve always desired but never thought was possible

No matter how sensitive you are you’ll never be successful at living someone else’s life. You will always fail at being them or doing it for them. It is only when you begin using your sensitivity to find that which feels good to you that you’ll find your way forward into the success you’ve always desired but never thought was possible. Yet, it’s from that pinnacle of success that you’ll be shining brightly and lighting the way for all.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Overcome Fear of the Unknown

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Dearest hearts the fear of what may come can be seen as justifiable and reasonable but when you live your life fearing that which may or may not come, you deny yourself the opportunity to be and enjoy where you are at this moment. The only space you can occupy is now, therefore, when you fear the unknown, you’re preventing yourself from experiencing joy on any level.

Instead of fearing the unknown before, during and after it’s encounter, the spiritual seeker stays in the present where all is already known

One of the hallmarks of the spiritual life is the ability, desire and commitment to live in a state of bliss or joy. Instead of fearing the unknown before, during and after it’s encounter, the spiritual seeker stays in the present where all is already known. Since they move from a place of known into a place of known there’s no need to lower their vibration by stepping into fear. Fear can only enter your life if you’re trying to make something that isn’t into something that is. In other words, you form a desire for a particular outcome, “I desire to feel happy.” However, instead of thinking happy thoughts or engaging in activities that bring you joy, you start complaining about your life and blaming others for your unhappiness. All the while stating to everyone that you are not happy but desire to be so. Because you’re not a vibrational match to happiness, happiness cannot be attracted to you. Like attracts like so you will attract more to complain about, more to feel sad about and more people to blame for your circumstances. You will not receive happiness but you will receive your vibrational match. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what you didn’t want so now fear enters the picture. “How did this happen to me? This is exactly what I didn’t want. Life always finds a way to disappoint me. I’ll always be unhappy. I don’t know what’s coming next but it probably won’t be good.”

When you are aware of what you’re doing, saying and feeling at any point along the way you become the conscious commander of your life

Coming from a place of darkness dictates that you will receive only darkness yet the unenlightened use that as an excuse to fear. Today we invite you to join the many who have chosen to be responsible for their lives. When you stay present to this moment you’re able to monitor your vibrational output. When you are aware of what you’re doing, saying and feeling at any point along the way you become the conscious commander of your life. Being present to what is allows you to choose the highest vibrational thought and feeling. From this place of elevation, you are busy creating your next moment. When you stand in the space of love, joy and peace with gratitude in your heart you call to yourself circumstances that reflect all that you are.

Pull up a chair and invite fear onto your analyst’s couch. Begin being the most alert observer you have ever known and trace the fear to its root

Fearing the unknown is only possible when you believe that the universe is random and chaotic. Since the universe is both orderly and predictable there can be no fear over future or unknown events because that which is coming is a reflection of or a match to that which you’ve been rehearsing with your thoughts and reinforcing with your emotions. Every time you find yourself becoming afraid of that which may be coming you must treat that fear as an early warning wake up call. Since you will only experience the end product of your thoughts you must go on high alert when you feel fear. However, you will not run from fear, you will investigate it. Pull up a chair and invite fear onto your analyst’s couch. Begin being the most alert observer you have ever known and trace the fear to its root. Ask yourself the following questions about the fear you’re feeling. “Is it legitimate? Is there a reasonable chance of this occurring?” if the answer is no, then be more mindful of your thoughts of doom and gloom. You must simply refuse to entertain thoughts of negativity or darkness. If the answer is yes, then you must follow a different course. Now ask yourself, “Why? Why do I believe this fear? What am I doing that will make this a reality? What could I be doing instead that would help me create a new reality? And why am I allowing negativity to have a stronghold in my life?”

Fear of the unknown can only occur if you believe that circumstances, your life and the desires of your heart are beyond your control

Once you have asked yourself these serious questions you must stay present and in charge of your reality. No one has control over your life but you, therefore, you must stay the course and stay aligned with what is desired as you refuse to consider any thought or feeling that is out of alignment. Fear of the unknown can only occur if you believe that circumstances, your life and the desires of your heart are beyond your control. Since everything is dependent on you and your relationship and reaction to it, there is no unknown element to life. Be present, stay aligned with the highest vibration and trust that everything is working out for your highest good.

Instead of living in fear of the unknown live in faith that the best is yet to come

Instead of fearing the unknown and living your life as though everything is left up to chance, we ask that you begin living your life fully in every moment. When you consciously choose your thoughts and deliberately choose your reaction your life will mirror those choices. Instead of living in fear of the unknown live in faith that the best is yet to come.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

How to Stop Being Afraid of Change

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Dearest ones the love affair all of you are having with what was is not allowing you to see what is. It’s time to let go of all that you’re holding onto and step out of the grip of fear into the flow of unconditional love. When you begin participating in this monumental act of courage you will find not just the way forward but also your sense of purpose and an overwhelming feeling of joy. Fear constricts but love liberates.

When you rehearse thoughts of doom and gloom or of a glorious yesterday that has been robbed from you, you’re living in fear and from that fear you create circumstances that match your expectations

As you move into this new decade you will be best served by committing to living from the wisdom of the heart. If you look upon yourself and all others with eyes of love, that which you’re looking at will change. The life you’re living and the circumstances you’re experiencing are neutral byproducts of the thoughts you’re thinking. When you rehearse thoughts of doom and gloom or of a glorious yesterday that has been robbed from you, you’re living in fear and from that fear you create circumstances that match your expectations. The events you encounter are not designed to hurt you or defeat you, they are merely indicators of what you’re thinking about and attaching strong emotion to. Since the circumstance has no agenda of its own and is only a reflection of your inner landscape, all circumstances are neutral. They simply are. It’s your reaction to the circumstance that determines whether the event will be positive or negative. In other words, if your input into the circumstance is fear-based or filled with anger then you’ll receive that experience from the event.

You are most definitely more than enough, greater than you realize and capable of more than you’re allowing yourself to achieve at the moment

We advise that you take a step back from everything that is in your life now and re-evaluate. Take an honest assessment of the views you’re currently holding and begin asking yourself the following questions: “What do I gain from this viewpoint? What do I lose by holding these thoughts?” After you’ve established the gain and loss you’re experiencing move onto asking why. “Why, do I need to believe this? or “Why am I unable to believe something more promising?” If you find that you’re clinging to thoughts and feelings that allow you to be safe but not happy we want you to ask yourself if you’re ready to accept more. Ask yourself, “Am I ready to do what’s necessary to make positive changes in my life?” If you’re ready, seek out someone who can guide you through this transformative process. It’s most helpful to have an independent person assist you in seeing yourself as you really are instead of you trying to convince yourself that you’re more than you believe yourself to be. You are most definitely more than enough, greater than you realize and capable of more than you’re allowing yourself to achieve at this moment so having an independent voice cheering you on makes what appears impossible, easier.

No matter whether you decide to move into this decade with fervor or you decide to take it slow, it will be necessary to love all of the different aspects of yourself just as they are

If you’re not ready to allow yourself to step into your fullness, then, begin where you are. Love yourself for all that you are in this minute, accept all that you represent. Be mindful of accepting all of you, this means that you must accept even that which appears unacceptable and unlovable. Don’t get caught up in judgment or correction, simply love what is as it is. No matter whether you decide to move into this decade with fervor or you decide to take it slow, it will be necessary to love all of the different aspects of yourself just as they are. If you desire to change and grow into a more capable version of yourself then you must begin from where you are with what you already have. By loving and accepting what already is, you’re giving yourself permission to become even more.

Change is a natural and normal part of growth, fear becomes attached to the process when you begin judging all that you are as not enough

Change is a natural and normal part of growth, fear becomes attached to the process when you begin judging all that you are as not enough. We ask that you let go of all belief systems that assign negative values and embrace the understanding that you, just as you are, are more than enough. From this place of acceptance, you will discover that change is not only easy,  it’s exciting. Don’t fear change, embrace it by learning to love and accept all that you are in this moment.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your complimentary, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough consultation at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.

How You Can Be Happy Right Now

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Dearest hearts, happiness is a choice. It’s not dictated by circumstances beyond your control nor is it something you can achieve when you reach a certain status. No, happiness is a state of mind, a way of being that allows you to feel good about who you are, where you are in your life and what you may be doing regardless of what it is. Your happiness and what’s going on in the world are not related. Today is the day to be happy. This minute is the time to find happiness with all that you are.

If you’re feeling as though things never work out for you or that other people receive the attention and luck you feel you deserve then you’re living your life in reverse

This may sound impossible to some of you but we ask that you stop assigning labels and just get it done. Begin learning to be happy by taking an inventory. Take a moment to look not at the possessions you’ve acquired but at the landscape of the heart. Does your heart feel full of love and goodness or has it become weighed down by bitterness, grief or thoughts of revenge? If you’re feeling as though things never work out for you or that other people receive the attention and luck you feel you deserve then you’re living your life in reverse. You’re looking at what’s happening in your life today as you think about what could have been yesterday. So, in essence, you’re hiding from pain that you participated in in the past and you’re using it to measure how your life is unfolding today. It’s impossible to start a new day with hope and joy in your heart if you’ve ended the previous day rehearsing all of the ways in which you’d been hurt in the past.

If you’re feeling anxious, worried or nervous then you’re living your life before it has had a chance to happen

If you sincerely want to experience happiness instead of just fantasize about it, then you must live in each moment as it presents itself. If you’re feeling anxious, worried or nervous then you’re living your life before it has had a chance to happen. You’ve gotten ahold of a crystal ball and asked it about your future. Then you’re spending all of your time, that could be used making you happy now, trying to create or prevent the future you’ve envisioned within that crystal ball. But what you’re not doing is taking what’s right in front of you and using it to create happiness and satisfaction in this now.

We’re not asking you to stop dreaming, we’re teaching you how to stop hurting

Should you forget about the past? Those glory days as well as those times you regret, absolutely. Should you let go of the future possibilities, the one you desire desperately as well as the one you fear deeply? Absolutely. We’re not asking you to stop dreaming, we’re teaching you how to stop hurting. When you let go of what was and stop obsessing over what will be you’re only left with now. When you have to be present in this moment and all else has been taken from you, you being opening yourself to all that is. You move beyond poor me, sad me, stressed me and hopeless me as you move into “This is me!” This is my life and by staying present to it I can find wonderful aspects that I overlooked previously. When you stop running away from all you’ve created because you’re afraid that it can’t be fixed. When you stop fearing the future because you’ve faced hardships in the past then you step into freedom, into a place of peace and into a way of being that promotes happiness on every level of your being.

Happiness will be yours each and every day if you take the time each day to go within to the quiet space of the heart and express gratitude for all that you have in this moment

Happiness cannot happen without your active participation. Happiness will not become part of your life if you’re determined to re-live the past. Happiness cannot be part of your experience if you live in fear of what if. However, happiness will be yours each and every day if you take the time each day to go within to the quiet space of the heart and express gratitude for all that you have in this moment. When you stay present to where you are now and you acknowledge all that you have in that moment, happiness will have a chance to grow. The seeds of happiness that have been planted in the fertile soil of gratitude will continue to support you even as you move through challenges and face growth opportunities. You may indeed find the path has grown steep but happiness will have become your constant companion no matter how difficult the journey has become.

Being present and grateful for all that is yours in every moment of presence will enable you to live instead of exist and to honor all of your life experiences

In this moment of now. In this space that can only be occupied in the present is where your life is happening. Being present and grateful for all that is yours in every moment of presence will enable you to live instead of exist and to honor all of your life experiences. When you live in the exalted place of this moment, happiness will always be your constant companion.

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Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who specializes in helping you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, limiting beliefs, and negative thinking so you can become victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she’ll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that’s running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy.

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to be victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life.

Schedule your complimentary, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough consultation at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.